>>So, what has brought me here?
>>As a teenager I was sure I was going to change the world. Most teenagers think that don’t they? To my parents’ horror, I entertained early thoughts of becoming a war correspondent. They mellowed into journalism aspirations, took a u-turn to fashion design, evolved into law and eventually brought me to study a dual degree in IT & Law. But writing, fashion and creating have remained constant passions.
>>As a student I lived on a steady diet of chocolate and potato scallops doused in lemon and salt. My skin was awful, but I was really skinny.
>>My first ‘career’ job was in a law firm, creating bespoke software. I loved it. When an opportunity came up to move ahead and manage the firm’s IT team, I grabbed it with both hands and didn’t look back.
>>I finally married my boyfriend of over seven years in a fairy-tale castle in Canada. We eloped and I am still not entirely sure we have been forgiven for it. When we got on the plane I whispered our secret to the flight attendant in the hopes of an upgrade. My dress was whisked into first class. We were ushered to our economy seats.
>>Our first child arrived in late 2008. He was perfect and I fell head over heels, not only with him, but motherhood and all it entailed. I returned to full time work but eventually realised that my heart had changed. I negotiated a part time position and was so much closer to the life balance I was desperate for.
>>Our second son was born in 2012. He died suddenly and unexpectedly two weeks later. My heart was ripped from my body. I have experienced more pain and learned more about myself in the past year than I thought possible. I know that my family is everything. I know that everyone is fighting a battle, no matter how perfect their Facebook feed might look. I know that healing is possible. I know that I can survive anything.
>>Our third son was born in 2013. I spend my days with him. I do miss paid work and there are times when I wonder about the value I am bringing into society. Then I just need to look at the little boys I am bringing up and I realise, it really is the most important job in the world. Sometimes we just need to remind each other of that.
What have been your big, life changing moments been?