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>>So, what has brought me here?
>>As a teenager I was sure I was going to change the world. Most teenagers think that don’t they? To my parents’ horror, I entertained early thoughts of becoming a war correspondent. They mellowed into journalism aspirations, took a u-turn to fashion design, evolved into law and eventually brought me to study a dual degree in IT & Law. But writing, fashion and creating have remained constant passions.
>>As a student I lived on a steady diet of chocolate and potato scallops doused in lemon and salt. My skin was awful, but I was really skinny.
>>My first ‘career’ job was in a law firm, creating bespoke software. I loved it. When an opportunity came up to move ahead and manage the firm’s IT team, I grabbed it with both hands and didn’t look back.
>>I finally married my boyfriend of over seven years in a fairy-tale castle in Canada. We eloped and I am still not entirely sure we have been forgiven for it. When we got on the plane I whispered our secret to the flight attendant in the hopes of an upgrade. My dress was whisked into first class. We were ushered to our economy seats.
>>Our first child arrived in late 2008. He was perfect and I fell head over heels, not only with him, but motherhood and all it entailed. I returned to full time work but eventually realised that my heart had changed. I negotiated a part time position and was so much closer to the life balance I was desperate for.
>>Our second son was born in 2012. He died suddenly and unexpectedly two weeks later. My heart was ripped from my body. I have experienced more pain and learned more about myself in the past year than I thought possible. I know that my family is everything. I know that everyone is fighting a battle, no matter how perfect their Facebook feed might look. I know that healing is possible. I know that I can survive anything.
>>Our third son was born in 2013. I spend my days with him. I do miss paid work and there are times when I wonder about the value I am bringing into society. Then I just need to look at the little boys I am bringing up and I realise, it really is the most important job in the world. Sometimes we just need to remind each other of that.
xxx Robyna
What have been your big, life changing moments been?
I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your second son – I can’t even begin to imagine the pain you must continue to go through. I have three boys too. My biggest life changing moments have been the prenatal diagnosis of Down syndrome for my third son, and a Leukaemia diagnosis for my eldest son last year. All three boys are doing great and light up my world, but they’ve given me a few grey hairs in my six years of motherhood, that’s for sure 😉 Congratulations on the new venture! x
Life never quite works out how we want it, but I believe that we can always choose to learn from it and we can always choose love. Glad to hear your boys are doing what boys do best 🙂
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Robyna, I love the question at the end of this introduction. We all have them don’t we?
I’m so sorry about your second son. Unimaginable.
To quote one of my favourite film/musicals, Annie, ‘I think I’m gonna like it here’.
Looking forward to exploring.
Thanks. To be honest, it still seems unimaginable, yet life goes on in all its beauty and splendour.