One day, in the hard to imagine future, my boys will leave home. I will tearfully help them pack. I will hope they return for dinners but manage their own washing and ironing. I will be faced with an empty nest and seek comfort in my husband’s arms. The man who made these boys with me. Our greatest achievement. And when our lives become less about our children and more about each other, I want to turn towards someone I still love with every ounce of my being. I don’t want to turn towards a stranger. Read more
The baby has finally gone to sleep after fighting for two hours. It’s been a long day and you fear it will be an even longer night. You know you should at least have a chat to your husband but all you want to do is to fall into bed. You are dressed in pyjamas stained with baby food and you can’t be bothered changing them. Your boobs hurt. Your bones ache with fatigue. A cuddle, let alone something more, is the LAST thing on your mind.
Yet, it is important. Kids will grow up and as they do hopefully you and your partner will grow closer together. But that takes some work.
These are some common barriers to intimacy after children with some suggestions about how to overcome them.
I wanted to have an honest chat about sex after children but I wondered how to do that. Then I realised that the best people to have that conversation are the ladies that first showed us how to speak openly about intimacy – welcome back Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Sam. Sex and the City returns. Read more
This month I am focussing on something that can be a bit hard to talk about, but I think is really important: regaining intimacy after having children.
For those of us who have recently (or not so recently) had children, romance and intimacy may feel like a thing of the past. This month I want to explore rekindling the home fires. If you are at that stage, I’d love you to explore this with me. I will be talking kindness (to yourself and your partner), feeling sexy again and intimacy after babies (gulp!) Read more