What has made me….. Robyna

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>>So, what has brought me here?

>>As a teenager I was sure I was going to change the world.  Most teenagers think that don’t they?  To my parents’ horror, I entertained early thoughts of becoming a war correspondent. They mellowed into journalism aspirations, took a u-turn to fashion design, evolved into law and eventually brought me to study a dual degree in IT & Law.  But writing, fashion and creating have remained constant passions.

>>As a student I lived on a steady diet of chocolate and potato scallops doused in lemon and salt.  My skin was awful, but I was really skinny.

>>My first ‘career’ job was in a law firm, creating bespoke software. I loved it.  When an opportunity came up to move ahead and manage the firm’s IT team, I grabbed it with both hands and didn’t look back.

>>I finally married my boyfriend of over seven years in a fairy-tale castle in Canada.  We eloped and I am still not entirely sure we have been forgiven for it.  When we got on the plane I whispered our secret to the flight attendant in the hopes of an upgrade.  My dress was whisked into first class.  We were ushered to our economy seats.

>>Our first child arrived in late 2008.  He was perfect and I fell head over heels, not only with him, but motherhood and all it entailed.  I returned to full time work but eventually realised that my heart had changed.   I negotiated a part time position and was so much closer to the life balance I was desperate for.

>>Our second son was born in 2012.  He died suddenly and unexpectedly two weeks later.  My heart was ripped from my body.  I have experienced more pain and learned more about myself in the past year than I thought possible.  I know that my family is everything.  I know that everyone is fighting a battle, no matter how perfect their Facebook feed might look.  I know that healing is possible.  I know that I can survive anything.

>>Our third son was born in 2013.  I spend my days with him.  I do miss paid work and there are times when I wonder about the value I am bringing into society.  Then I just need to  look at the little boys I am bringing up and I realise, it really is the most important job in the world.  Sometimes we just need to remind each other of that.

xxx Robyna

What have been your big, life changing moments been?


5 thoughts on “What has made me….. Robyna

  1. mummalove says:

    I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your second son – I can’t even begin to imagine the pain you must continue to go through. I have three boys too. My biggest life changing moments have been the prenatal diagnosis of Down syndrome for my third son, and a Leukaemia diagnosis for my eldest son last year. All three boys are doing great and light up my world, but they’ve given me a few grey hairs in my six years of motherhood, that’s for sure 😉 Congratulations on the new venture! x

    • Robyna says:

      Life never quite works out how we want it, but I believe that we can always choose to learn from it and we can always choose love. Glad to hear your boys are doing what boys do best 🙂

  2. Annette of I Give You The Verbs says:

    Robyna, I love the question at the end of this introduction. We all have them don’t we?
    I’m so sorry about your second son. Unimaginable.
    To quote one of my favourite film/musicals, Annie, ‘I think I’m gonna like it here’.
    Looking forward to exploring.

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